Getting Married At St John's
Are you are thinking about being married in St John's Church? Below is some information to help you begin to plan and prepare for your wedding.
Who can be married in St John's?
There are several ways you can be eligible to marry in any church:
- By one partner living in the parish.
- By one partner being on the Electoral Roll or the membership list of the church.
- By Archbishop's licence which costs about £150 (but for which permission must be sought).
- If one partner was baptised in the parish. (This does not apply where the baptism formed part of a combined service of baptism or confirmation); or
- had his or her confirmation entered in a church register book of a church or chapel in the parish; or
- has at any time had his or her usual place of residence in the parish for at least 6 months; or
- has at any time habitually attended public worship in the parish for at least 6 months;
- or a Parent of that person has at any time during that person’s lifetime:
- had his or her usual place of residence in the parish for at least 6 months; or
- habitually attended public worship in the parish for at least 6 months;
- or a Parent or Grandparent of that person was married in the parish.
How can you be married?
The normal way is by the calling of banns in the Anglican parish churches where each person lives and where a person is on the Electoral Roll. This means you must apply for banns to be read in the other churches and not just the one where you are being married. The banns will be read in St John's within the three months before the wedding date. Alternatively you can be married by licence if one partner lives abroad. More details of the law governing marriage in the Church of England can be found on the Church of England website here.
What decisions have to be made?
Here is a list of questions for you to think through.
- Have you discussed together why you want to be married in church? What plans have you made to attend church? Would you like to learn more about the Christian faith?
- Have you decided on the date and time? Book this first and other practicalities can be decided nearer the time in meetings with the minister.
- We normally use the new marriage service and we will arrange times to help you think through the content, and explain and rehearse the service.
- Besides the meetings with the clergy about practical arrangements, we will send you a letter inviting you to a meeting with two of our church members, with two or three other couples who are also getting married at St John's for a short course of Marriage Preparation. The evening will be full of laughter and will help open up all the important areas of married life for you to discuss and think about together. This is an important part of the preparation and we hope you will do all you can to attend.